Pathwork Lecture #098: Wishful Daydreams
September 8, 2009
An Unofficial Summary of Pathwork Lecture #098: Wishful Daydreams
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The ultimate reason for living is to make one’s life meaningful, and this can be done only by merging with the universal life force, from which we keep ourselves separate, in a misguided attempt at self-protection, by our self-centeredness and our cowardice. Apart from doing our work of self-finding, we can bring meaning into our lives by doing something which benefits others as well as ourselves. If we PRAY sincerely to be involved in such an activity, the prayer will be answered. When our lives continue to feel meaningless over time, this is a sign that we are stuck in our fearful isolationism. GETTING IN TOUCH with our resistance to giving will help us grow beyond it.
Daydreams are symptoms. Rather than suppressing our daydreams, which will just cause another type of symptom to emerge, we would do well to OBSERVE and EVALUATE them for what they can tell us about ourselves.
One type of daydream is about gratifying pride. In such a daydream, we convince those who have slighted us that we are superior. This is a waste of energy, and the momentary relief it brings us removes our motivation to find our own negative contributions to our relationships with others.
Another kind of wishful daydreaming is about imaginary satisfaction of our unmet needs. When our isolationism inhibits our ability to achieve satisfaction, we retreat into a fantasy world in which we are in complete control, and the longer we stay there, the less able we are to deal with the real world, and the more attractive the pseudo-fulfillment of our fantasy world consequently seems. Thus, we remain removed from reality. We would do well to ASSESS how true this is about us.
When we live in daydreams, we convince ourselves that they will eventually come true, but they never do. While fantasy seems like it would be more satisfying, reality is far more satisfying when we give up the false need to be in complete control of it.
On the positive side, daydreams may provide an incentive to live fully. They are also useful indicators of how far along we are. Moreover, they potentially bring our unsatisfied needs into awareness.
Questions & Answers:
Our psyches may choose to have substitute fears, rather than face the fear of being ourselves. To the extent that not facing ourselves prohibits our fulfillment, the psyche may choose the substitute satisfaction of daydreams instead.
While “needs” are real and healthy, “drives” come from compulsions which are rooted in misconceptions.
Not daydreaming could be a reflection of stifled creativity, or of hopelessness and passive resignation. Sometimes we give up unrealistic daydreams as we get older, but sometimes we don’t.
Spiritual law is experienced more harshly by the less developed. This is not divine retribution; rather, without such hardship, integration could not take place.
The “unconscious” includes everything we are unaware of, positive and negative. Our whole life experience on Earth is geared towards bringing into awareness that which is already within us. In sleep or deep relaxation, unconscious knowledge can surface and we can resolve certain previously intractable problems. We can activate this process with a specific, constructive intention to solve a particular problem, and to solve it in the best possible way, even if this requires us to give up a selfish goal.
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